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This is a deeply moving story that I’d strongly encourage you to watch:

John Piper writes:

I tremble with the glad responsibility of introducing you to Ian & Larissa Murphy in this video. Tremble, because it is their story and so personal. So delicate. So easily abused. So unfinished. Glad, because Christ is exalted over all things.

I am so thankful for Desiring God (a free-but-not-free blog and ministry), for books like This Momentary Marriage, and for the faithful testimony of people like Ian and Larissa. May stories like this abound ten-thousand-fold.

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24 thoughts on “This Momentary Marriage: Ian & Larissa’s Story”

  1. taylor says:

    May this story be used by God to spur us all into deeper covenant love with our spouses. Thank you Ian, Larissa, and DG.

  2. Matt says:

    Praise the Lord. God’s richest blessings on you, Ian and Larissa.

  3. Phil Long says:

    Beautiful…this glimpse into love so foolish and wise; this hope that will not disappoint; this mercy from above become flesh. Thank you.

  4. Frederick says:

    Only their love for God could make this possible. Glory to God.

  5. Words cannot explain how beautiful this story is; it draws on all the emotions. It is sad, happy, beautiful, encouraging, and above all brings glory to God. Thanks for sharing, Justin!!!

  6. Dixie Torrech says:

    I am moved beyond words. To God be the glory forever!

  7. Michael Doran says:

    Justin, thank you for introducing us to Ian and Larissa via your wonderful website. You brighten my days and enlarge my world.
    John, thank you for guiding these two couples through your book, and for sharing them with us via Desiring God.
    Ian and Larissa, thank you for revealing what unconditional love looks like, sounds like and feels like. Bless you both.
    Lord, thank you for allowing me and so many others to witness this special couple, their lives and, most of all, You-in and through them. Amazing love, how can it be, but from a cross You died and rose to set us free. To God be the glory forever and ever. Amen.

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  9. judith and Jack Ostrander says:

    yes, God is awesome! Beautiful couple!

  10. Ian and Larissa Murphy’s story serves as a striking contrast to what happened to George Matheson:

    “O Love That Wilt Not Let Me Go” was written on the evening of Matheson’s sister’s marriage. Years before, he had been engaged, until his fiancée learned that he was going blind—that there was nothing the doctors could do—and she told him that she could not go through life with a blind man. He went blind while studying for the ministry, and his sister had been the one to care for him through the years, but now she was gone. He was now 40, and his sister’s marriage brought a fresh reminder of his own heartbreak. It was in the midst of this circumstance and intense sadness that the Lord gave Matheson this hymn, which he said was written in five minutes.

  11. J.F. says:

    Let’s be fair, even though it’s a sweet story.

    Marriage has traditionally been about a man and a woman leaving their father and mother and becoming one flesh. This cannot happen either physically, mentally, emotionally, or spiritually.

    Is this really a marriage?

    1. Jason says:

      In regards to your question “Is this really a marriage?” Not sure why you are asking the question. Let me ask you a question. So what if they would have gotten married before his accident? Then after being married, he got in the accident? Would it be a marriage then?

      1. J.F. says:

        Yes, your hypo would be a marriage. Why? Because they both vowed to love each other. They both entered into a consensual relationship to take care of each other before God.

        Is this a consensual relationship? He is probably at a toddler’s brain level. Legally, you can’t form consent at that age.

        Can there be a marriage without both parties understanding and agreeing to the marriage?

        1. Brock says:

          If you read the blog, you will see that a judge ruled him competent to get married. He actually praised them for their desire to do so. It also seems, from watching the video with my experience working with special needs kids, that he seems to understand conversation he just can’t adequately communicate his thoughts in normal conversation.

          That being said, is it a different marriage than most? Most definitely. But it is one that they seem to have entered into after much counsel, thought & prayer. I’m praying for them as they work this through together.

          1. Jim says:


            Thank you for having the courage to raise the questions you have about this story. As moving as the personal story is of his tragic injury and her loyalty to him, I have some deep misgivings about what is presented here. The injury occured before they were married or even formally engaged. Perhaps he was ring shopping but they had not made a formal commitment to one another. Even the Christ-church model here is skewed. Should the man not have self-sacrificially said (or had someone say for him–like a pastor or her or his father) to this beautiful young woman, “Dear, I must sacrifice my desire to have you for a wife, and keep you as a dear friend, so that you might be one day be married to someone else who might be able to have a true one-flesh union with you.” Another worry I have with this video that reflects the m.o. of “Desiring God” and broad evangelicalism generally is that it is so “emotion-driven,” rather than reason-driven. Look at the comments where folk gush about how moved they were or how much they cried. Does it make it “good” or “inspiring”?


            1. Rachael Devlin says:

              Hi Jim, I think why this video is “emotion-driven” because love is {believe it or not} an emotion. Larissa’s decision may not be “reasonable”- if it were reasonable this video wouldn’t have actually moved people.

  12. MG says:

    Incredible story. It also saddens me to think how many marriages, including mine, fell apart over silly things compared to what this couple endures. I hope this couple’s story helps do something desperately needed in our country – put life back in perspective.

  13. kay a balsley says:

    That is true love when a disablity does not stand in the way of how she feels about him She still loves but remembers him the way he used to be My husband Had MD and died in April I miss him so much I hope they have many happy yrs together

  14. Buddy says:

    It is a blessing to have your heart touched.

  15. Rev. Osvaldo Silveira says:

    Wonderful story of love and commitment that inspires and honors marriage. Would have any chance of having this story in Spanish? It would be a blessing to show it in the church

    1. Rachael Devlin says: – story in Spanish and video with Spanish subtitles

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