Tim Keller speaking at chapel for Wheaton College (November 11, 2015), explaining that our culture repudiates as oppressive the idea that someone else names us and gives us an identity, but that when you trust Christ you have the only identity on earth that is received instead of achieved.
Keller goes on defend a form of individualism as inescapable but to critique expression individualism (the idea that you must look inside and then express them outwardly no matter what anyone says). He offers five critiques: it is (1) incoherent; (2) unstable; (3) illusory; (4) crushing; (5) excluding.
We are social beings who need recognition and naming from outside—someone whom you love, approve, and esteem—to speak to you.
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