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On Tuesday we looked at worldly grief from 2 Corinthians 7. Today we turn our attention to godly grief. Though answering a slightly different question, I think the Heidelberg Catechism (Answer 89) gives a good definition of godly grief. Godly grief "is to be genuinely sorry for sin, to hate it more and more, and to run away from it."

The prodigal son saw that he not only had made a mess of his life, but he had sinned against his father, then one who loved him the most and gave him everything. This is exemplary. Too often we are simply sorry we got caught. Sorry we have to live with the consequences.  Sorry we got knocked down a few notches in some people's estimation.  Godly grief is different. Godly grief doesn't blame parents or the schools or the government or friends or the church.  Godly grief says "Have mercy on me, O God, according to your steadfast love; according to your abundant mercy blot out my transgressions.  Wash me thoroughly from my iniquity, and cleanse me from my sin” (Psalm 51:1-2).

Godly grief sees the vertical dimension of our sin. I have a growing concern that some Christians are describing sin in categories that mask its true nature. Sin is not simply a sad thing because it can wreck our lives. It is not just the ruining of shalom. Sin does more than make God sad that his world is not the way it's supposed to be. Sin makes God angry. It is offensive to God. His wrath is aroused not simply because we're missing out on his best, but because we have violated his law, rejected his Lordship, and made ourselves gods in his place.

Godly grief recognizes the utter sinfulness of sin and hates it more and more. The Corinthians were indignant that they has been implicated in this attack on the Apostle Paul (2 Cor. 7:11).  They wanted to clear their names and make things right.  The were zealously opposed to their own mistakes.

Once we hate sin we are more inclined to run away from it. Grief, you notice, is not the same as repentance. Most people think grief equals repentance. They feel really bad about something, therefore they are repentant.  But notice in verse 9 that godly grief leads to repentance.

There is an eternal difference between regret and repentance.  Regret feels bad about past sins.  Repentance turns away from past sins. Most of us are content with regret.  We just want to feel bad for awhile, have a good cry, enjoy the cathartic experience, bewail our sin and how selfish/stupid/sorry we are.  But we don't really want to change.  We don't really want to live different than we have been.

Godly grief produces true repentance, which leads to salvation (v. 10). Instead of obsessing over regrets and feeling bad due to the opinions of others, godly grief mourns for sin, turns from sin, and finds forgiveness for sin in Christ.

Here's one way to distinguish between worldly grief and godly grief: one mobilizes you into action and the other immobilizes you. Godly grief is a fruitful and effective emotion.  We are not meant to wallow in this grief.  It is supposed to spur us to action, to change, to make right our wrongs, to be zealous for good works, to run from sin and start walking in the opposite direction.

But worldly grief makes you idle and stagnant.  You don't change.  You don't grow.  You don't fight against the deeds of the flesh.  Instead you ruminate on your mistakes and obsess about what people’s opinions and ponder what might have been.  If you feel sorry for your sin you will be moved to action not to wallow in it week after week, year after year.  Do you want to feel bad or do you want to change?

Some of us, truth be told, would rather feel bad. It’s easier than being changed.


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4 thoughts on “Godly Grief”

  1. bill crawford says:

    Hi Kevin,

    I have been thinking about God’s response/attitude toward a Christian’s sin. We know that Christians are both justified yet still sinners. We know the pollution and corruption of sin affects everything we do – not just the overt violation of a commandment but even the best we do for God and his people.

    We also know, as you write, that “Sin makes God angry. It is offensive to God. His wrath is aroused not simply because we’re missing out on his best, but because we have violated his law, rejected his Lordship, and made ourselves gods in his place.”

    When I try to put these two truths together, I think that God is in a state of being perpetually ticked-off at me. Even my godly sorrow and godly repentance are polluted by the sin that arouses his wrath (and I believe this wrath is justified).

    But how do I reconcile these with the truth that I am forgiven in Christ, that God loves me and is now my Father, that I am clothed with Christ’s righteousness?

    What is God’s attitude toward his polluted children? Love or restrained wrath for their sin? How do sinners like me breakout of thinking we always disappoint God to experiencing the Father’s embrace?

  2. Kevin,
    That is what happens when I am behind in email… I saw this posting after your latest one… I probably would not have driveled on… if I had read this one first… here is my comment on this posting: EXACTLY!

  3. rutendo says:

    wow, this has really challenged me to stop having worldly grief. God bless you!

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Kevin DeYoung is the senior pastor at Christ Covenant Church in Matthews, North Carolina. He is chairman of the board of The Gospel Coalition, assistant professor of systematic theology at Reformed Theological Seminary (Charlotte), and a PhD candidate at the University of Leicester. Kevin and his wife, Trisha, have seven children. You can follow him on Twitter.

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