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Several years ago–I can’t remember if it was three or four–we experimenting with turning one Sunday evening service a month into a prayer meeting. I’m happy to say the experience stuck and these monthly prayer services have become a highlight of our life together as a church.

Over the past couple years, and especially over the weekend after I tweeted something about our prayer service, I’ve had people ask me what we do at these prayer meetings and what they look like?

In general, the service is 60-75 minutes long. We usually start with a hymn and then have a brief (15 minute sermon). We haven’t always included the sermon–and there is a danger of the sermon eating up all the time for prayer–but we’ve found that a brief sermon gets the heart ready for prayer and is also helpful for non-Christians who may be visiting. The rest of the service is set aside for prayer, which is normally led by me, or sometimes by one of our other pastors. Rather than go into a blow by blow of this past week’s service, I thought it would be helpful to share some lessons we’ve learned about planning for and leading an effective prayer meeting.

1. Establish a regular and attractive time for the service. If you don’t currently have a prayer service, you will have a hard time starting one up at a new time. People are already overbooked. No matter how much you exhort people, it’s hard to get a good turnout for prayer on Friday night or some early morning. We have a 30 minute prayer meeting on Tuesday mornings which is faithfully attended by a few church members. It’s a great time for those of us who make it a priority. But it’s rarely more than 10 people. By putting our prayer service in a regular church slot–which for us was Sunday night, but could be Wednesday night or some other time–we not only made it possible for more people to attend, we sent a signal that this was important. To be fair, our Sunday evening attendance is not anywhere near our Sunday morning attendance, but I bet we had 125 people at our prayer service last night. That’s a lot better than nothing.

2. The pastor has to be involved. I lead most of our prayer services. Rarely does anyone besides one of our three pastors lead. That’s not because others are incapable of leading well. They are and some have. But we want people to see that this is not a throw away event. The pastor does not have to be the best prayer warrior in the church or the only champion for prayer, but I’m convinced he has to take ownership of the prayer meeting if it is to succeed.

3. Use variety. Our prayer services are always different. We’ve used lots of different forms and approaches, including: singing prayers, reading prayers responsively, praying through Scripture, being led in prayer, praying as a large group, praying in small groups, praying through old liturgies, praying through old prayer manuals, praying through confessions, and taking prayer requests. This past week I led the congregation in praying through Martin Bucer’s prayer of confession (with periods of silence) and his prayer of intercession (with periods of small group prayer), both taken from his Strasbourg Liturgy.

4. Include children. This has been one of the unexpected delights of our prayer meeting. We have lots of children in our church and many in our worship services. They are full participants, often praying out loud when we huddle in small groups of 8-15.

5. Celebrate. We share a meal after our prayer services. Some churches may be too big for such fellowship, but most are not. Having pizza and ice cream together gets the kids excited and sets apart the evening as anticipated fellowship event as well as a time for prayer. Prayer is hard work, so put your best foot forward.

6. Be patient. Praying out loud is difficult for some people. Praying for 30-60 minutes can feel awkward at first. Keep at it. I think we’ve grown a lot in praying together as a church, but it takes practice.

7. Keep up the pace. Maybe in some churches and in some cultures God’s people can linger in prayer for hours on end, but in my experience in this country, we need to keep things moving. A half hour of prayer can seem daunting, until you break it up into 3 minutes of silent prayer, 4 minutes in led prayer, 5 minutes in read prayer, 8 minutes in large group prayer, 10 minutes in small groups praying through five separate items.

8. Plan, plan, plan. Can I say it again. Plan! The biggest human difference between a vibrant, effective prayer meeting and a dull, ineffective one is planning. I learned this from Ben Patterson, both from his teaching and from his example. Many churches gave up on the prayer meeting because no one knew how to plan one. Asking people to popcorn prayer for 30 minutes will not sustain most people’s interest.  People need categories for prayer. They need models for prayer. They need theological boundaries for prayer. The pastor must spend significant time preparing to lead his people in prayer.

9. Remember. Be expectant when you pray. And when God answers prayer, remember to thank him. I will never forget that it was soon after starting our monthly prayer service that God started opening the doors for us to buy our current church facility. I don’t think anyone who was at the service will forget the time of prayer we had for a college student with cancer and his newlywed. We’ve prayed for little babies and old saints. We’ve seen some people get better and some go to be with the Lord. Of course, every church prays for these sort of things, but we’ve been blessed to be able to pray for them together.

10. Don’t forget to pray. Taking prayer requests for 25 minutes and praying for 5 minutes is nice, but not really a prayer meeting. Having your calling pastor do a traditional service for old people may be a wonderful idea, but it’s not a prayer meeting either. And singing four hymns, preaching for 30 minutes, and then praying through the sick list for 10 minutes is not what we’re talking about. Make sure your prayer meeting is full of prayer.

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27 thoughts on “How to Lead a Good Prayer Meeting”

  1. Jim says:

    Excellent points. Unfortunately, I haven’t attended a prayer meeting on more than 11 years since apparently no churches in the Bible belt (actually the “I have a Bible belt) have them. We did have a small group of people in one church I attended interested in starting one, but the leadership told us we couldn’t start one because it was “not in keeping with their philosophy.”

  2. Joan says:

    Thank you!

  3. Tony Huy says:

    This was beyond helpful! Thank you KD.

  4. Ben says:

    Thanks Kevin. I would tweak point 2 to say that the preaching-teaching pastor should be involved, but that other elders and men who are considering the eldership should lead the service. These are excellent opportunities for them to grow in their leadership and for the sheep to get to know their shepherd (or potential future shepherd). It also has the knock-on effect of reminding the flock that their are other leaders and that leadership doesn’t have to start with the primary preacher-teacher or even within the eldership, but that God has gifted many men to lead the church.

  5. Todd Wilkinson says:

    Thanks Pastor,

    Question for you or for anybody concerning suggestion 8. Can someone please provide a link or an idea on how to practically plan a prayer meeting?

    Should we use the news, media, Operation World, ect.

    Really need the help so if anyone can reply it would be helpful!!

  6. Riley says:

    We have a prayer meeting once per month instead of Sunday School, prior to worship. It is also our monthly communion Sunday. Sadly, the prayer meeting is more sparsely attended than the Sunday School at the same time slot on the other Sundays.

  7. Pastor RIck says:

    Todd Wilkinson,
    Check out John Franklin’s book And The Place Was Shaken: How to Lead Powerful Prayer Meetings. As a Pastor prayerfully working through this very issue, I have found it to be very helpful. May God bless you brother.

  8. If people don’t want to pray, having a special type of meeting doesn’t really get it done. The best prayer meetings I have ever attended, in my life, were at Red Hills Baptist in Kingston, Jamaica. Everybody prays out loud, none of that silly holding hands stuff, and it is perhaps the most beautiful sound I have ever heard.

  9. Excelent! Can I translate it into portuguese and post it in my blog The aim is to provide Christian community with good material in order to edify the church. Thanks again.

  10. John Botkin says:

    Todd Wilkerson, here is what I came up in terms of planning when we decided to overall our weekly prayer service several years ago.

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  12. Andrew Hoy says:

    Thanks for the post Kevin. It seems like this is an area that the contemporary church needs to give more attention to. Do you have any recommendations for books or resources that would be helpful in planning prayer meetings? (Pastor Rick, thanks for your recommendation.)

    Also, do you know of any books or essays that detail what church prayer meetings traditionally looked like? When I read Ian Murray’s Revival and Revivalism, I remember being curious what the prayer meetings of the “faithful” churches looked like, and I still am.

  13. Ernie Vegas says:

    I used to go to prayer meetings a lot before, when I first became baptized and wanted to expose myself to as many Christian things as I possibly could. Some of the most memorable meetings had some type of food and water which was blessed. This fills in the gaps between services, so it has an important function.

    But here is the most interesting thing; sometimes the person that shows up at the meeting has never eaten blessed food or taken communion or used holy water before. In fact their attendance at the prayer meeting that night might be the only one for a very long time! By blessing the food and water, you might literally be sustaining them in their life’s challenges. They might get the spiritual healing that they have always wanted, but never knew what it was called or where they could go. They might not even attend regularly and the one time that they go, they get the blessing they have needed for a long time. I have witnessed this phenomena a lot during the time I have been a Christian, especially as a Christian researcher.

    Interesting posts. Thanks.


  14. Steve S says:

    These are great ideas! I look forward to implementing them soon.

    I didn’t grow up in a Christian home or in the church. As a first generation church pastor trying to figure all of this out, I was beside myself in understanding “prayer meeting.” I had no idea what prayer meeting even was! Still not quite sure. Getting to my first church was the first time I had even heard the phrase “prayer meeting”…let alone to lead it! Eventually I thought it was a dead legacy from the past like Homecoming and I kept doing them for the time being. So needless to say, this is a tremendous help.

  15. As the Prayer Coordinator in my Church, I find that it can be pain staking to capture and hold the attention of the body in prayer. I am always looking for ways to enhance and introduce new avenues to prayer and I appreciate your information/book recommendations etc. and certainly will implement the ideas that we are not already utilizing. Thank you.

  16. akash says:

    Praise the Lord , Wonderful words…sir, I am a web designer as well as developer. I made a Christian website for india and i want to help all people for free.Please pray for me and for my family.God bless you all.

  17. Dr Rod says:

    Praying is Holy Spirit led individually or corporately at anywhere when lead esp during casual encounters. Should be very private in a corner parking place inside the car walking… etc
    Avoid being noticed by someone if you can avoid. Praying has been daily companion in all of these decades esp with families. Could only be the testimony legacy left behind when anybody knows your in prayer for them as the Holy Spirit leads anytime. Been involved in early Sunday AM meetings for years wherein Pastor leads after reading bulletin prayer requests but can be mechanical automatic fleshly led bothersome for repeat requests over current pressing urgent prayer unsung needs only the Holy Spirit urges at that particular time. But the sincerity groaning plea to our Heavenly Father knows so closely as if the HS is present comforting consoling our prayers. Brief but touching solid unflinching pleas to cling to the Father to a child relationship. I wish I could share more as our HF knows our prayers even as we groan in Spirit. Rejoice brothers for your hearts desire!

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Kevin DeYoung is the senior pastor at Christ Covenant Church in Matthews, North Carolina. He is chairman of the board of The Gospel Coalition, assistant professor of systematic theology at Reformed Theological Seminary (Charlotte), and a PhD candidate at the University of Leicester. Kevin and his wife, Trisha, have seven children. You can follow him on Twitter.

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