Chasing Comfort in All the Wrong Places

Where do you turn for relief, for assurance, for security, for calm?

In this new video, Gloria Furman, Nancy Guthrie, and Lauren Chandler consider various places we’re tempted to look for comfort amid a chaotic and uncomfortable world.

“I often want a defined role that provides the comfort of knowing my identity,” Chandler shares. We’re also tempted to search for comfort in the deadly comparison game, Furman adds. Few thoughts are more enticing to ponder than “I do this better than her” or “She thinks I do this wonderfully.”

The advent of social media, Guthrie observes, has unleashed a new array of options when it comes to seeking comfort. As Furman suggests, “Distractions available on the Internet are often geared for women looking for comfort.” If we’re not careful, our “online lives” can easily become pacifiers to dull our pain, relieve our boredom, and fill our emptiness.

When we’re scared or sad, it can be “so much easier to turn to people rather than to God,” Guthrie observes. Make no mistake: the Devil will do everything he can to make his enemy’s Word appear dull, boring, and irrelevant.

Reflecting on the extremely uncomfortable experience of walking alongside her husband, Matt, during his battle with cancer, Chandler remarks how she learned the importance of “finding comfort in the Lord while realizing that wasn’t going to make all the uncomfortable around me go away.”

Watch the full seven-minute video to see these women discuss the appeal of pseudo-comforts, why close friendships can be dangerous, and more. And consider attending The Gospel Coalition 2014 National Women’s Conference, where Guthrie will address with her husband, David, the topic “Getting Through Grief Together: Finding Healing Grace as a Couple.” Related workshops include Jani Ortlund’s “How Could They? Practicing Forgiveness in a World Filled with Failures” and Lydia Brownback’s “Content in All Circumstances . . . Really?” See the full list of talks planned for June 2014 in Orlando.

Chasing Comfort in All the Wrong Places from The Gospel Coalition on Vimeo.

  • a.

    amen, blessed be the God of all comfort! Not one sparrow is forgotten before God-how much more valuable are we.

    May Your lovingkindness comfort us, according to Your word to Your servant, Lord; we cast all our anxiety on Him, because He cares for us, keeping us as the apple of the eye and hiding us in the shadow of His wings

    May our Lord Jesus Christ Himself and God our Father, who has loved us and given us eternal comfort and good hope by grace, comfort and strengthen our hearts in every good work and word.
    2 Cor 1:3;Luke 12:6 -7;Ps 17:8;119:76; 1 Pet 5:7;2 Thess 2:16-17

  • Julie Hopkins

    Thank you for this post today. It so ministered to me and was exactly what I needed to hear. How good The Lord is and how beautiful is His comfort.

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  • Robin

    There’s a segment where one commentator mentioned it falls short to find comfort in calling someone or a friend to talk to and points to finding the actual Comforter, the Holy Spirit, to comfort in times of crisis or trouble. I think this comment needs to be balanced with the view that it is not wrong to find comfort in good Christian friends for often God uses wise friends through the Holy Spirit to counsel and comfort us in times of need. Our godly friends become Christ incarnate to us, not that we worship them, but Christ works through the physical and audible presence of one another for spurring us on. Sure, our walk with God also needs to come through personal prayers and reading of His Word, and I agree with the commentator this is crucial, but needs to be balanced with the God working through the community aspects. Otherwise we are fall short in thinking it is just me and God, the ultimate spirituality. I believe this is not what the commentator intends to say, but just want to comment to approach this issue with balance. Great discussion!